The Lies My ‘Loverboy’ Told Me™

Narcissists won’t just be abusive. They’ll do tiny, petty things that technically aren’t abuse but they’re designed to get under your skin. They know exactly what they’re doing. And they know you can’t say anything because what they’re doing isn’t technically abuse. It’s not “bad enough” to call out. It’s not illegal. It’s not obvious. So if you speak up, you risk looking irrational, dramatic, or “overly sensitive.” “Wow, calm down — it’s not a big deal.” “You’re overreacting.” “I didn’t even do anything.” But they know exactly what they’re doing.  It’s psychological warfare.  These little “nothings” add up — and what they’re really saying is: “I’m in control. I live in your head. You can’t prove it.” And the truth is… anyone who behaves like this is deeply emotionally depraved. That’s a soul so disconnected, it has to feed off someone else’s peace just to feel alive. They’re trying to aggravate you…So laugh it off. Find their desperation to affect you amusing instead.  A...

It’s a devastating mindfuck the scapegoat experiences. They are abused and tormented for years behind the scenes. They show more tolerance than anyone should ever have to show. They swallow their pride and they bite their tongues… for years. They take the pain quietly… for years. But no one sees that but the abusers. And then finally when their humanity has been trampled on more than any human being could possibly handle, they finally have no tolerance left and possibly no sanity left, and they react aggressively, sometimes even violently to protect what’s left of their humanity. Witnesses only see this reaction and condemn the scapegoat as a violent aggressive person. The scapegoat is shunned and shamed while the abusers continue on in society as if they are the innocent victims. This pain on top of the lifetime of abuse they have already experienced, is another level of psychological torture most people won’t understand, and no one should have to experience this. The fact that the ab...

One in three Australian men has reported committing domestic violence, world-first research has found – and the same research has identified new ways to tackle it. The Australian Institute of Family Studies found fostering affectionate relationships between sons and fathers (or father figures) was associated with reducing the risk of intimate partner violence (IPV) by as much as 48%. The AIFS Ten To Men Australian Longitudinal Study on Male Health is the largest of its kind. It started tracking about 16,000 boys and men in 2013-14, and in 2023-24 added another 10,000 men to the database. The definition of intimate partner violence includes emotional as well as physical abuse. Having good social supports is another protective factor, according to the AIFS report based on the study’s robust data up to 2022. Men who reported high levels of social support all the time in 2013-14 were 26% less likely to report committing IPV by 2022. Mental health issues such as depression can increase the ...