“Malignant narcissists think they can abuse you terribly one day, and then act like nothing happened the next and you’re supposed to go along with this.”
“Malignant narcissists think they can abuse you terribly one day, and then act like nothing happened the next and you’re supposed to go along with this. Sometimes called “narcissistic reset” or “reset button abuse.” It’s a common manipulation tactic used by malignant narcissists where they expect you to act as if their abuse never happened, as if they can press a reset button and erase the past. If you refuse to comply and hold them accountable, they label you as the problem—accusing you of being bitter, unforgiving, or “stuck in the past.” This is a form of gaslighting and emotional invalidation, designed to make you question your own reality and force you into submission. It’s also connected to compartmentalization, where they separate their abusive behavior from their self-image, refusing to acknowledge any wrongdoing. In their mind, they decide when things are over, and your feelings don’t matter.” – Ryan Daigler , Exposing Narcissistic Abuse